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Steve Grand – All American Boy

Steve Grand

Steve Grand

There’s been a LOT of press lately about Chicago singer Steve Grand. He’s been called “Country Music’s First Openly Gay Singer” and things like that. It’s probably true since Kenny Chesney hasn’t come out yet. (Ok, that’s more a joke than anything. I have no clue if it’s true.)

Regardless, Steve Grand released his first music video on July 2 and essentially came out to the world. He came out to his family a long time ago and was sent to anti-gay therapy. He has spoken openly and said that his mom is now very proud of him and the road he’s taken.

The song, “All American Boy”, is about unrequited love. He meets a guy at a party, they become friends and hang out for a while. Steve and the guy eventually do some skinny dipping, and in that classic moment most of us have had, misreads the signals and gives the guy a kiss. Dude isn’t into it and leaves. They catch up later at another party and dude (yeah, I don’t have another word) gives him a hug and the “Let’s be friends” look – Steve’s heartbroken.

This morning Good Morning America (ABC -> Disney) aired an interview (above) and talked about the video. They mention the kiss and showed the scene…. but cut away a few frames before and didn’t show the kiss. A short man-on-man kiss is a bit too much for America at 8am apparently. Or maybe they want you to watch the video for yourself. Probably not. The mouse can be a bit family-oriented at times.

There has been an outpouring of support for Steve on his Facebook page, including from myself, and sales of his single on BandCamp (name your price) are shooting up. In just a week, the video is over 650,000 views on YouTube and as the press catches on to the story, you’ll just keep seeing this grow.

Steve Grand is not covered by a label. He put himself into debt to produce the song, and spent just $7000 on the video. I’m completely amazed by this as both the song and the video are so well produced you would think he had major backing on both.

Given the talent and heart demonstrated by his performance, both in the music and interviews, I’ve got no doubt that Steve will have A&R guys from many labels hunting him down and trying to sign him. I’m hoping to hear much more from Steve Grand.

And as to the unrequited love… Steve’s a very attractive guy so I have no doubt that he’ll find a man who deserves him soon.

Bullying victim faces jail

Thanks to Twitter and @Unmarketing for pointing out this appalling story.

Basically, a month after The huge anti-bullying rally across Canada which had thousands of people showing their support by wearing a pink shirt, we get this story.

Rob Scorcia was bullied for years and nothing ever really happened to the bully. Rob reported it to school authorities, police, parents etc and it just kept happening and escalating.

So one day Rob takes an imitation gun and threatens the guy with it. Which was dumb, but considering there was no real danger, and nothing happened beyond a verbal threat you would expect it to end there.

Instead, Rob was arrested and charged with using an imitation handgun in the commission of a robbery and now faces a year in jail for it. An automatic one year sentence. The jury in the trial didn’t believe or didn’t consider the fact that he’d been bullied for years.

It’s a mis-carriage of justice in my lay-opinion. Not that Rob was in the right, but that the bully has gotten away with years of this crap and then turns around and has Rob arrested because he finally stood up.

I’m sure there’s way more to this than I’ve read or inferred from one article, but I wanted to vent and share this with you.

The family is trying to raise money for an appeal.

And the bully?

In his second day at college this year, he got charged with sexual assault for pushing and fondling a female student and robbery after a male student was repeatedly kicked and spat on during a demand for his property.

Anti-Bullying Day

Premier Gordon Campbell, in proclaiming Feb. 25 Anti-Bullying Day, said “all across British Columbia, parents, teachers and students and community members are taking a stand against bullying and saying that no one should ever be made to feel intimidated, afraid or discriminated against.”

Source: The Province

I have to admit, I didn’t see any pink shirts on my (short) trip to work this morning, but I’m hoping and praying that there are many people out there taking up this cause across BC.

Like many young gay men, I was bullied as a teenager. Not a lot, and certainly not as badly as many kids are bullied. I was never physically injured, nor was I overly emotionally affected by it.

In junior high school, just coming of age and living in a new city, this one kid who lived in my neighborhood decided that I was gay (how he knew) and decided to pick on me. Naming names – Kevin McNabb. I’ll never forget him. He teased me with the usual taunts and verbal jabs, calling me all the usual names and generally making life miserable whenever he saw me.

Obviously I’ve gotten past it. I can’t say it was easy and it didn’t make accepting my homosexuality any easier but in the end I think it made me a bit stronger. I had to stand up for myself and learn that words, while harmful, didn’t mean much coming from small people like Kevin.

Kevin if you’re out there, I hope you’ve grown up in the last 25 years, but I doubt you have. I also hope that you didn’t torture too many others along the way.