It Gets Better

A while back, following a number of suicides by gay youth who had been bullied, an amazing project was born. The It Gets Better Project is the brainchild of Dan Savage who knows first hand what growing up gay (or lesbian, bi or trans-gendered) is like.

The website has this to say about the project:

What is the It Gets Better Project?

In September 2010, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage created a YouTube video with his partner Terry to inspire hope for young people facing harassment. In response to a number of students taking their own lives after being bullied in school, they wanted to create a personal way for supporters everywhere to tell LGBT youth that, yes, it does indeed get better.

Two months later, the It Gets Better Project has turned into a worldwide movement, inspiring over 5000 user-created videos and over 15 million views. To date, the project has received submissions from celebrities, organizations, activists, politicians and media personalities, including President Barack Obama, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, Rep. Nancy Pelosi, Adam Lambert, Anne Hathaway, Colin Farrell, Matthew Morrison of “Glee”, Joe Jonas, Joel Madden, Ke$ha, Sarah Silverman, Tim Gunn, Ellen DeGeneres, Suze Orman, the staffs of The Gap, Google and Facebook, the Broadway community, and many more. For us, every video changes a life. It doesn’t matter who makes it.

The website www.itgetsbetterproject.com is a place where young people who are lesbian, gay, bi, or trans can see how love and happiness can be a reality in their future.  It’s a place where our straight allies can visit and support their friends and family members.  It’s a place where people can share their stories, take the It Gets Better Project pledge, watch videos of love and support, and seek help through the Trevor Project and GLSEN.

Along with all the celebrity support, hundreds of videos have been produced by normal, everyday people who want to send messages of hope to the community. Chris and I have talked about making a video, but haven’t done it. We were both bullied as teens and responded in different ways. Today, we believe that It Gets Better and feel that we embody that. We’re both out of the closet, obviously married and not shy about it, we don’t hide our relationship, and are fairly happy having moved past the bullying and negative experiences of our younger day.

One of the most recent videos to be added is yet another celebrity (of a sort) – Max Adler who plays Karofsky on Glee. Karofsky is a football player and more importantly a bully. He’s quite fond of slamming Kurt into his locker and taunting him with hate speech. Recently though, we found out that Karofsky is actually a big closeted ‘mo himself when he kissed Kurt (who finally stood up for himself) in the locker room.

Max shot an It Gets Better video and it was featured on The Advocate.com yesterday. Although Max isn’t gay, I’m sure he’s seen his share of bullying in school and life, and I’m glad that he shot this seemingly honest video to counteract the damage being done by his character on Glee. I think having Karofsky’s character on Glee is important as a way of showing what really happens in school, and how most people who bully are really insecure themselves (although they’re not all gay of course).

You can watch Max’s video below, but be sure to check out the YouTube channel for more videos, and the It Gets Better Project’s website for more and how you can get involved.

http://www.itgetsbetter.org/

Anti-Bullying Day

Premier Gordon Campbell, in proclaiming Feb. 25 Anti-Bullying Day, said “all across British Columbia, parents, teachers and students and community members are taking a stand against bullying and saying that no one should ever be made to feel intimidated, afraid or discriminated against.”

Source: The Province

I have to admit, I didn’t see any pink shirts on my (short) trip to work this morning, but I’m hoping and praying that there are many people out there taking up this cause across BC.

Like many young gay men, I was bullied as a teenager. Not a lot, and certainly not as badly as many kids are bullied. I was never physically injured, nor was I overly emotionally affected by it.

In junior high school, just coming of age and living in a new city, this one kid who lived in my neighborhood decided that I was gay (how he knew) and decided to pick on me. Naming names – Kevin McNabb. I’ll never forget him. He teased me with the usual taunts and verbal jabs, calling me all the usual names and generally making life miserable whenever he saw me.

Obviously I’ve gotten past it. I can’t say it was easy and it didn’t make accepting my homosexuality any easier but in the end I think it made me a bit stronger. I had to stand up for myself and learn that words, while harmful, didn’t mean much coming from small people like Kevin.

Kevin if you’re out there, I hope you’ve grown up in the last 25 years, but I doubt you have. I also hope that you didn’t torture too many others along the way.